Sex addiction: hypersexuality – If the common Lust ends in loneliness

Sex addiction – disturbed impulse control or compulsive behavior

Hyper sexual, in the vernacular, Sex addicts, as „Casanovas“ admired, or morally condemned. It is, however, an Addiction, a compulsive behavior, or impaired impulse control. Like most addictions it is associated with suffering.

There is the disease of sex addiction?

The addictive nature of the behavior, the Affected may lose over a longer period of time, the control over your sexual behavior and it does not change (), although it has serious negative consequences. It is, in fact, a pathological behavior – an Addiction.

What are the possible consequences?

The first visible negative consequences of Hyper-sexuality in human relationships. Those who want to excessively get the partner of your best friend to bed, the girlfriend of the impending relationship by crosses, or without consultation with the private partner the private Partner copulates criss-cross through the area – the or the da are going to be completely alone.

Follow in the profession

Sufferers may also lose your Job. Be it that you fall sexually and gentlemen, without that this interest is based on reciprocity, be it that they neglect their professional duty by her sexual behavior. For example, Concerned walking around at night in Clubs and end up in strange beds, and are at work sleep-deprived. Or you can spend your time on web forums for sexual contacts.

Inner Emptiness, loneliness and neglect

The victims are, in contrast to what some outsiders may think, not „self-conscious Draufgänger“. Pushes you rather, a feeling of inner Emptiness and to escape this inner Void, looking for a Kick through Sex. Hopelessness and fear, to be alone, put the Diseased Sex as a positive Input in the opposite – as to alcoholism Sufferers the alcohol.

Symptoms of Hyper-sexuality

Leading symptoms of a „Sexsucht“ high Porn use (several hours a day), constant self-satisfaction, and more frequent partner change.

Addictive behavior

The Similarity to other addictions is that this behavior can not be controlled by the person Affected. Like an alcoholic hiding his booze in the inside pocket and secretly drink, look at the Hyper-sexual to the operation of the toilet porn movies on your Smartphone. Like other addicts neglect Hyper-sexual other interests and necessary things: you do not clean your apartment, pay your rent and don’t care about your partnership.

With myths occupied

Excessive sexual behavior is occupied with myths: people who are sexually unsuccessful or unattractive to hold, admire those to whom it is easy to establish sexual contact. People with restrictive sexual morality hold frequent change of partner, however, for „Sünde“.

Polyamory is not a disease

The more the term Hyper-sexuality must not be used lightly. Marks are not polyamory, and also not a promiscuous Phase – but the addiction, the addiction and the escape from the Sense of inner Emptiness.

Crucial the control is

Psychologists largely agree today that for an Hyper-sexual disorder is not the number of partners and sexual contacts is crucial, but the control over the sexual behavior. Affected realize that they have lost this control, the addictive nature becomes clear.

Sex as escape

The Affected „belohnen“ with Sex, you from soft to living issues, compensate for failures in the profession or bad experiences of the past.


A nurse commented on the sex addiction of an Affected with the words: „This is also a Form of impotence.“ In fact, most Sufferers have to admit a great fear of closeness and intimacy. Sex is impersonal, and as soon as a loving attachment to the sexual partner develops, they will disappear and find the next. A Concerned ran in a panic from a Club, when he saw that the same six women with whom he was in the bed jumped, and he had then left to sit.

How is it Addiction?

The causes of Hyper sexuality differ from person to person. Sometimes your in-depth psychological problems: trauma, sexual abuse in Childhood, and the like. Often it is a slowly learned behavior as is the case with other addictions. Affected start to compensate for the boredom with Sex. The mass of pornography on the Internet makes today is very simple. Also, the biological condition can play a role: people with a strong sex drive would be compromised, therefore, higher addiction.


Hyper-sexuality can, but need not, be part of the symptoms of other diseases. So, even people with a Borderline personality disorder or Bipolar in their manic Phase often Hyper-sexual behavior. Also the combination with other addictions, occurs to a greater extent: abuse of substances – Alcoholism or addiction to drugs like Heroin or cocaine.

What to do?

Important for those Concerned, admit to having a Problem. This sounds easier than it is, because the Hyper sexual behavior does not mean just an escape to deal with life problems. Then it comes to seek therapeutic help.

What relatives can do?

Members should talk openly with stakeholders about the Problem and the behavior condemn neither moral nor nice to talk. You should give the person in question especially that you appreciate them as people and you need to prove to you nothing.

Treatments for hypersexuality

Hyper-sexuality can only be treated individually, since the individual causes vary greatly. Since it is a behavior disorder, promises to be a behavior therapy the most success. Here are the Affected learn to control their impulses, and not to displace problems by sexual stimuli. In addition, you will learn close.

It’s not about abstinence

In contrast to substance abuse, it is not a question of the individuals to abstinence to stop. Sex is not for the Hyper-sexual as a liquor bottle for an alcoholic. It is rather to control their own sexuality, so that it causes the Affected persons desire to be safe instead of sorry.

The dose increases with each drug

With substance abuse, Hyper-sexuality has in common that the dose to get the Kick, is on the rise. Initially, problems with Sex can, in fact, for a Moment, to displace, but the effect and the problems remain unsolved. The Affected increase your sexual contacts and their sexual actions and feel in spite of dozens of Onenight-Stands, and hundreds of consumed porn empty inside.

Withdrawal symptoms

Looking for character also shows in the fact that the Affected suffer from withdrawal. Without Sex, if only for a limited time, you will be aggressive, depressed or nervous.

On the Problem approach

Hyper sexuality is a behavior, a Displacement. In therapy, it is a matter of the real Problem, and edit it. Affected feel worthless or disadvantaged? You suffer from a father complex, you have fears of loss? A hand is in reality a fixed depressive disorder behind the behavior?

Nymphs and satyrs

Satyrs were goats in Greek mythology, hybrid creatures made up of men and goats and marked by an animalistic lust. They came after the nymphs, feenartigen female and kopulierten with you, wherever the two met.

Mythical creatures and diseases

Satyriasis and nymphomania are outdated terms for sexually active men and women. The increased sexual Desire, the realization of the Concerned, however, with an Addiction, a pathological behavior, nothing to do. (Dr. Utz Anhalt)